Sunday, March 18, 2007

Ready Aim Fire

Quinn surprised me again today with a 'surprise' when I was changing his diaper. This time, it exploded from him as I was putting some cream on his bum. No, folks, we're not talking pee here.

It's amazing how far that stuff can fly. No pics or video.
On a more pleasant front, Eva's mom was in Erlangen for the weekend to visit Quinn, and she took some great pictures after Quinn's bath.

Quinn really likes getting dried off by the hair dryer after his baths, but we have to make sure that there are no surprises...or the hair dryer will short circuit.

Gould family picture...

Friday, March 16, 2007

Beer

Fatherhood Rule #2: Having a few beers on Friday night at home during dinner isn't nearly as much fun as it used to be. In fact, having a buzz with children is not recommended.

...as if changing diapers wasn't hard enough, try doing it after a few beers. Before you know it, you'll have poop all over the place.

For those of you responsible ones in the blogosphere, I have not tried this at home.

Quinn has been a darling these last few days and is back to his 'normal' self. Very little crying, almost no screaming, and being generally sweet.

He's been eating a lot...

Wednesday, March 14, 2007

Looking Back...

Here's Quinn helping Eva and I out with the laundry. He's really proving to be a great help around the house.
There really hasn't been that many good picture opps these last days since Quinn has been crying a lot these two days - maxing out our (mainly my) patience. At the end of the day, babies cry for no real reason...but it is still very frustrating to see this lovely creature crying so loud - as if someone is pulling his arms apart - not knowing why, and not knowing how to make it go away. All we can do is show him that we are there for him...

At the end of the day, he's either hungry, has a dirty diaper, or has gas. You really wish you can convey to him in his babytalk that gas is fun! In a few years he and his classmates will laugh when they have gas...but for him, now, it is an offense that warrants screaming like a stuck pig.

At the end of the day, he's been great these last two weeks. I had expected a lot less sleep. He sleeps between 3 and 5 hours, uninterrupted, at night.

Tomorrow, we are beginning a new chapter in Family Gould book...I have to go back to work. These last two weeks of 'vacation' have been great. I think it has allowed us to enjoy our first days together as a family without much of the standard stress of work. I've really liked our time together...we've had a lot of great walks in our neighborhood, we've sat on terraces drinking coffee, and we've even barbequed together. The weather has been great. But, it has been a lot of work. In these last weeks, I have gained a tremendous amount of respect for those parents that have to do it alone or for those parents with twins.

These last two weeks could not have been better...except it would be nice if Quinn could tell us exactly what was causing him to cry. I sort of laugh to myself that it is God's last joke to us humans: when you think about the process that begins with a sperm and an egg and ends with a child, you have to be amazed as to how well it actually works. If babies could actually tell us what was wrong, than it would be just a bit too easy for us parents...making it a bit too easy to forget how complex and how wonderful a child actually is.

Lots of people ask how it feels to be a father...I can't really answer that one yet. I guess I still need to let it sink in a bit.

Thanks for letting me ramble a bit.

P.S. It is amazing how quickly one can 'forget' one's opposition to pacifiers (Schnuller), when one realizes how quickly it calms a child...

P.P.S. high ho, high ho, it's off to work I go...

Monday, March 12, 2007

Let the Grilling Begin

Yesterday, we were piddling around a bit, and Eva got some really nice pictures of Quinn. At this age, he can't really smile, but once in a while, he gives us this innocent smile (Engelslächeln) that is really sweet. This pic below would be titled: "Hey, waitress, I said I wanted two beers. I'm getting cranky." We did not stage this picture.
We had absolutely awesome weather today. It definitely felt like spring, and it was the first day I could go for a walk outside without a jacket. It was probably in the high 50's with tons of sunshine. We went for a long walk as a family in our neighborhood and then to a coffee shop that had its grand opening today. We sat on the terrace, relaxed, had some coffee, and enjoyed the sun!

Below are a few pics near our house. We walk in the area a lot. The pictures are being taken from the 'green strip' of grass that is about 20 meters from our back yard. This one below is looking south to the 'protected free space - protected from development' (Naturschutzgebiet). The green strip itself is about 70 meters wide and maybe 500 meters long.

For those of you in the Denver area, this 'green strip' is our Wash Park. It is a lot smaller and has no lake, but it is packed with people in the evening and on the weekends. Kids of all ages are playing on the grass, and all sorts of joggers, walkers, nordic walkers, rollerbladers, and bikers are rolling by on the path.

This is the green strip looking north. Our condo is about 50 meters to the left.
Below a quick family pic taken from our back yard. Today was just one of those days to enjoy the weather, friends, and family. I love spring!

Today was also very significant for another reason: the 5th season began today...the Grilling Season! I brought the grill from the garage and fired her up. Quinn wanted to help. Here we are, father and son...grilling.



Saturday, March 10, 2007

I'm getting sleepy...

Here's Quinn and I, while I was piddling with the camera. I still find it amazing how small his fingers and toes are, and I really like playing with them. Quinn gets foot massages when I change his diapers (which is why he likes it when I change his diaper ;-)

The nurses and the midwife said his feet are really big. And...you know what they say about boys with big feet...

...big shoes.

This picture won't pass Eva's editorial control, so I have to hurry up and post this before she wakes up...

Friday, March 09, 2007

First Bath and Offroading

I normally play with Quinn's feet a bit each time I change his diaper. This was mostly recommended by the midwife as a way to strengthen his ankle muscles, but I find his little legs and feet so cute and soft, anyway.

Here, I was trying (and failing) to get a good B&W shot of his little feet.
We've got about 4,000 pictures of Quinn in this pose: sleeping in his cradle...and each of the many pictures in this pose are just as cute.
Similar shot from later in the day, with a 'picnic pooh' outfit. The feet are shaped in the form of a pooh bear with extra ears. Today, Quinn had his first bath! He took the whole experience really well and seemed to have a good time. Thankfully, he didn't poop in the water.

He was a bit annoyed after he got out of the bath (read: he was crying like a stuck pig), but he really calmed down once the midwife started drying him off with the hairdryer. He also really liked having his hair combed.We also had great weather for a walk this afternoon. Eva is feeling better and can walk a bit further, so we ventured out to the park near our house. We think we'll be spending lots of time there in the future! It's definitely great to have so much open space near our place, so Quinn can go out and play when he gets a bit older.

Quinn is already trying to push the limits: below, you see him trying to take on the BMX track that is close to our house. We had to tell him that he was a bit too young for the track, but that he could try it as soon as the training wheels are off his stroller.

Wednesday, March 07, 2007

The first walk in the great big world

The poor little guy has to live with a dad that loves to take pictures when he sleeps and looks so sweet!

Thankfully, Quinn is sleeping well through the night and only has a few hours in the late evening where he is really awake. This has allowed Eva and I to sleep pretty well at night. I've been taking the 'first shift' in the late evening so that Eva can sleep if Quinn is active. As a general rule, he hasn't been crying much, and after he wakes up, he tends to look around a lot before he starts crying for his parents. At the end of the day, he's sleeping a lot...

It is obvious, that he gets the ability to take naps from his father.
Yesterday, we took our first walk together as a family. It's definitely a surreal experience walking with a child in a stroller...yet very cool! The weather is still a bit cool, but it is great getting some fresh air.
Quinn posing with his parents during the walk. We look pretty well rested, huh?

Quinn in his carriage. To answer the obvious question you probably have: no, this is not a customized carriage with Quinn's name. The company is actually named Quinny. For your next question, no, we did not name our son after the baby carriage.
Quinn's arms don't yet come out of his winter snowsuit...

Surprise!

Being a father of a son, I have heard from many experienced parents that the little boys like to play games when getting their diaper changed. Namely, they pee after their diaper is opened.

While I was prepared for this when changing Quinn's diaper, I wasn't prepared for what happened on Monday evening. Let's just say that Quinn wasn't finished doing his 'other' business when the diaper was opened...

...no pics or film for this one...

Monday, March 05, 2007

Hebamme (Midwife)

While it is very difficult for me to compare the two different health care systems of the US and Germany, I can say that I'm truly impressed with the service that we've gotten. It certainly doesn't hurt that Erlangen has one of the best med schools in Germany and is a teaching hospital (Uniklinik).

During the birth, we had a midwife-in-training during the complete birth process. We also had regular visits from the head midwife. Towards the end, we had regular visits from the doctor.

I had to learn (or relearn) what a midwife actually was. I had this picture of the 18th century birthing process - something relatively old fashioned. After all, this is the 21st century, why can't I get a doctor.

I have to say, that the care from the midwife was exceptional. There was a nice mix of high tech from the doctor and 'practical' birthing experience from the midwife. Midwives go through a tremendous amount of training, and actually have the first priority during the actual birth. First midwife, then doctor.

What's even better, the health care system here gives us daily visits, at our home, for the first 10 days we're home. This is a very cool and comforting value added service. Definitely preventative care.

As with everything else, it has a price that has to be paid: 50%+ taxes. For now, I feel like we're getting our money's worth: We had multiple people helping us with the birth in a newly remodeled hospital, 3 days in the hospital, lots of preventitive tests, and 10 days of home visits from a midwife for 10 EUR. Not a bad value.

Sunday, March 04, 2007

Pinkeln lassen

Quinn had quite a few visitors his first days in the hospital, including his Aunt Nina, who hopped on a train to Erlangen after finishing her night shift at work after hearing that Quinn had been born.

Quinn is definitely taking after his father by taking lots of naps. I'm particularly happy about this because I now have a great excuse for taking a nap. The breast that is pictured is mine and not Eva's.
Here's Quinn in his hospital crib with his name tag.
Another picture I took while Quinn was napping. I'm getting pretty good at taking pics with one hand...
When the little guy is napping, you can tell he is dreaming about something because of how he moves his eyes and hands. I definitely wonder what he is dreaming about...maybe about the 'good ol' days' of swimming around in Eva's belly.
As is tradition from Eva's part of town, when the mother and child is still in the hospital, the father throws a party for their family and friends.

"Wir wollen das Kind pinkeln lassen"

Roughly translated, we want to let the child pee. Between the lines, this means that it is the father's last chance to really get hammered before the family comes home. So, last night, I had our neighbors and friends over for a small party to celebrate Quinn's birth.

Eva'a parents and Nina did a great job getting everything prepared for our guests! Only on very rare occasions does one see Eva's mom drinking...and below we have proof of the special occasion.

As is becoming 'tradition', the Gould-Göttgens party was a great time. We played the music louder than we should have and we drank more schnapps that we needed. It got especially loud when I played Quinn's theme song: "The Mighty Quinn". Nina hamming it up for the camera with a beer cap in her eye.
Before we picked Eva up from the hospital, we got the condo all ready for our new arrival. I even cleaned the toilets!
Here I am with Quinn shortly before leaving the hospital. The weather was perfect for the event - a beautiful spring day.

At the hospital, they had a map of the world, where we could put stickers denoting origins of the newborns' parents. I put a sticker over Borger, my hometown.
Now we are all home. Quinn has been perfect since we got him home. He's barely crying. He showed extreme patience when I was changing his diaper for the first time. I'm definitely going to have to get better at it (and faster). But, I think Quinn will give me tons of opportunities to practice.

We're now trying to settle into our new lives as parents...the next chapter of our lives has now begun!

Saturday, March 03, 2007

The Mighty Quinn

Presenting...Robert Rutledge Gould V...also known as Quinn !!!

After a pretty hectic last few days, I'm finally making the time for a real blog post. Thanks for your patience. I knew these days would be hectic, but it is amazing how fast the days go and how little I can actually 'accomplish'.

It all started for Eva around 2am on the 1st of March. I woke up to Eva having some contractions about an hour later. I asked Eva if everything was OK...she said "define OK. I've had regular contractions for the last hour". I was immediately awake. These contractions were a bit of a surprise for both of us, since the doctor said the day before that it looked like it would take a few more days.

(Above, Quinn shortly after his first bath. During his bath, he also had his first poop.)

We waited a few more hours until the contractions came every 3-4 minutes before going to the hospital around 7:30am. Of course, when we got checked in, they started measuring the contractions, and they were only every 5-6 minutes - only 2 cm of the birth canal was open, and we needed 10cm. We were afraid that they would send us home to wait a bit longer.

We went to the breakfast room and had a few bites to eat...then went back for further measurements. Around 11:30 (two hours after the last measurements), Eva was having regular contractions and the birth canal was 4cm open. Not bad progress.

(Above, Quinn getting weighed: 3450kg; 7lbs, 10oz)

Thankfully, Eva was far enough along that she went into the birthing room. A super cool room with a huge tub, two high tech birthing chairs, stereo, and a super old fashioned 'birthing stool' - circa 1920.

The midwife convinced Eva to go into the tub to relax a bit. Eva's not much of a tub person, but she was up to trying anything to make the pain go away. As it turns out, the tub was a great suggestion. Eva went from 4cm to 10cm in less than 2 hours. Now the pushing was going to begin. (Above, Quinn getting measured: 52cm, 21.5")

Eva had to push for two hours to finally get Quinn out. There were some birth complications, but both mother and son ended up just fine.

(Above, in a pose he will hate us for. He looks like an old man here.)

It was a pretty powerful feeling when I saw Quinn's head come out. As I had been warned, he was a dark purple color. Not exactly the cute picture of youth that you imagine you'll see.

It was pretty tense for a while: first, his umbilical cord was wrapped at least 4 times really tight around his waist. His lower body was really white, as if the lower body was completely without blood for a while, and really long and skinny. I thought his legs and feet were dead and lifeless.

Second, he wouldn't cry. He was completely silent. At least I could see him move and knew that he was alive, but it was pretty scary for Eva. She asked him to cry for him (something we won't ask for again).

(Above, Quinn and his dad taking some pics while Eva was in a post birth operation. They had to take some blood and took it from his finger...hence the band-aid).

Thankfully, Quinn cried shortly thereafter and his legs were OK. Whew!

I got to cut the umbilical cord. Very cool. It was a pretty amazing moment when the midwife put Quinn on Eva's chest for the first time. Definitely an emotion that is undescribable.

(Above, Quinn and his dad)

Unfortunately, there was an emergency C-Section for another woman, so Eva had to wait about 2 hours for her post birth procedure. The nice part was that it gave us some time with Quinn before the procedure. It also gave Eva's parents a bit more time to get to Erlangen.

(Above, Quinn with his Grandmom: Oma Göttgens)

Thankfully, this story has a happy ending. So far, Eva is recovering well. She's still tired and sore, but she's taking it all like a champ. Quinn has passed all of his prenatal tests so far. He's feeding well and sleeping a lot.

He doesn't really cry that much, but we're sure that will change soon. Eva will come home from the hospital tomorrow morning. We're definitely looking forward to our new future as a family of three.

(Above, Quinn with his grandfather: Opa Göttgens)

Finally, why 'Quinn' you ask. Well, it's pretty simple, actually. Quinn is the fifth Robert Gould. It is a long tradition in my family that started with my great grandfather. When my great grandfather (RRG), his son (RRG, Jr.), out of respect for his father and the great man that he represented, refused to change his name to RRG, Sr.), which was common at the time. That tradition was passed on when my father and then when I was born.

Robert Rutledge Gould V is named after his grandfather, RRG III - a great man, from which I have learned a great many important life's lessons. It has not always been easy, and my father has not always chosen the easy path, but he has almost always picked the right one.

As with most children, the older I get, the smarter my father becomes.

So...I still haven't answered the question: Why Quinn. Well, each of us Robert Gould's have had a nickame based from our name. These names usually changed as we got older (I was Bobby when I was young, Rob since college, and I was always "Robert" when my parents were mad at me). In this same tradition, Quinn is a nickname derived from his full name: Robert Rutledge Gould V. But, slightly different, Quinn's nickname is derived not from Robert, but from the V.

Latin for the number five is Quintus...the long form of Quinn.

While I'm rambling about family tradition from my family, I will also mention a few other items about my (and Quinn's name). The name Rutledge has a direct connection on my dad's side of the family and might be (never confirmed) connected from Edward Rutledge, one of the signers of the Declaration of Independance. You can find more information about Edward Rutledge and Charles Carroll (another signer of the DoI to whom we're related) at:

http://www.ushistory.org/declaration/signers/rutledge.htm

http://www.ushistory.org/declaration/signers/carroll.htm

Thursday, March 01, 2007

...geschafft...

After 13 hours of labor, our little bundle of joy was born:

Robert Rutledge "Quinn" Gould V

3450g
52cm

7lb, 10 oz
21"

Eva and Quinn are doing well, despite some complications during birth. Most of important of all, they are happy and healthy...

...more to follow soon. I'm exhausted, and all I did today was hold my wife's hand.


Jetzt geht's los!!!

Eva's been having steady contractions since about 2am. She's doing a great job and everything is fine.

I now realize how useless I am in this situation.

We're off to the hospital. Keep your fingers crossed. 10 fingers, 10 toes.